Never in a million years would I ever have thought that I’d be experiencing the kind of toxic energy I dealt with at my last job. I’m gonna leave out the company name and who I’m referring to, just to be on the safe side and since the owners were always pretty decent towards me. So I have nothing against them personally. Let me give you some background on what I’m talking about.
I was on my early retirement in 2019, enjoying a much needed break from being overworked and unhappy from the work I was doing as a customer service rep for the previous 20 years. I was living comfortably on my savings, but started to run low and needed to find a job quickly. So I wrote down on paper what I felt would be all the requirements of a “dream job.” Not long after, I’d say maybe a month or less, I got a text from my best friend about a job she was doing and asked me for some meditation tips. Knowing meditation is my jam, I texted her with some ideas, but also asked what this job was, since I was looking. Turns out, the job was right up my alley AND it matched almost ALL of the things I wrote on my list. This was what I considered my dream job so I applied and got hired that day. About a year in, I realized how much I loved my job and how our team felt like a family, from the way we all goofed around with each other. I mean…we DID get on each other’s nerves too, but we’d resolve our issues quickly because we cared. I’d even say we loved each other. Eventually our director would get his own center and the assistant director stepped up to fill the role and that’s when all hell broke loose. I had already experienced her rude behavior on several occasions…saying little condescending things and using a condescending tone that I typically brushed off, only to be met a day or so later with some kind of token of “niceness.” I didn’t catch on at first…that every time there was some act of disrespect, there would be a “plant that I got you” or a “health shot that I grabbed for you while I was out.” She was creating an abuse cycle and I hadn’t even realized it before. Finally one day I called her out on it and a few weeks later, her solution was to send me to another center, because we “just don’t get along.” Watching her use that “innocent” voice when she talked to people, knowing how venomous she could be, just made me escape to my office and close the door many times. I remember this one day at quitting time, we discussed me going to the store the next morning as a courtesy, to buy things for the center. I agree and she hands me the card to shop. The next day or so, I hear her call me into her office, with an accusatory tone of irritation. Apparently she was mixed up and was asking me where the card was and rudely saying I needed to go to the store. My coworker and I both reminded her that I’d gone already and that I gave her the card back. We were even pointing out the receipt in front of her on the desk. The next day, that same coworker told me that she called our director out on her behavior, suggesting that she was wrong for speaking to me like that but said the director’s only reply was “y’all are too sensitive.”
We were all recently called back after a 2 month furlough and I made the decision to go my own way. Oh and get this…that director was the one who called me!